This is the first of a 4-part series called “The Happenings on Highway 5.”
They appear random, the memories from childhood that become part of who we are, and yet, I suspect they are not.
I spent my formative years (4-12) in a small town in northern Indiana. We lived in a weathered clapboard and haunted farmhouse (fodder for another blog) bordered by a soybean field, a sway-backed barn beside a prolific mulberry tree, a catfish swamp, and State Highway 5.
Back then, in that place, time did not fly. Summers gloriously lasted forever. School even longer. Softballs or snowballs, shorts or mittens, dogtooth violets or crunchy leaves marked the seasons. Today, seasonal changes impress me more, spurring recollections, four of which I would like to share beginning with the spring they repaved Highway 5.
Our house sat about thirty feet from the road, guarded by three magnificence maple trees bursting with chlorophyll rich buds, on this particular afternoon. The smell of tar hung heavy in the air. It was the kind of day that gets you itching for summer and the end of school, and for whatever reason, I wasn’t at school, but perched on the porch railing, counting cars, guessing how many would pass before I spotted a blue one. Like I said, time passed slowly.
There was more traffic than usual, as the highway had just been reopened, when I noticed a sparrow in the center of the far lane refusing to fly away as each car approached. I ran to the maples, fretting as tire after tire miraculously missed the bird. It’s wings fluttered in attempt to take flight, but its feet were stuck in the tar. I hightailed inside for Mom. It wasn’t long before she halted traffic with one hand and with her trusty paring knife in the other, cut away the tar, freeing the sparrow. She cradled the stressed bird in her front shirttails and carried it to the kitchen.
In triage mode, she soaked the bird’s feet in warm, soapy water, all the while cooing to it. “It could die of fright, if we’re not careful.” With the scaly and golden feet mostly clean, Mom stroked the bird’s head before placing it in a shoebox along with a canning jar lid holding water-soaked Wonder Bread. “Let the poor thing rest.”
When Mom passed away, a few years ago, the minister who performed the service chose to read Luke 12:6 in reference to the way Mom had lived her life: “Are not five sparrows sold for two cents? Yet not one of them is forgotten before God.” Mom, he suggested, was not a hawk, or a dove, or a bluebird, or a cardinal among women and men. She was one of the seemingly countless sparrows, the worker bees, and yet she had mattered greatly to all who were graced to know her— and she mattered to God. Just like that sparrow mattered to her.
Later that spring day, Mom set the shoebox on the porch railing and opened the lid. The sparrow didn’t budge. We sat back quietly and waited. After a few minutes, there was a rustle, and the sparrow took flight, winging away to the mulberry tree.
The next morning, still groggy with sleep, I found Mom at the open front door. “Look, “ she said.
I peered out. The sparrow was there, next to the abandoned shoebox singing a song.
Unbelievable, but true, that mousy colored bird came back for many days, to that very spot, in the morning, and sang to Mom—one sparrow to another.
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Beautiful. I had to restrain the tear that was forming.
Don’t restrain. I love when my writing makes folks cry. But, thank you as one grateful writer to another.
Oh Heide, that made me cry. It’s so interesting that this very morning, by the door of my studio was a little gray sparrow, chirping and looking in through the door. I wondered why it was there. That has never happened before. Then I read your piece. I have always related to sparrows. I feel it i sone of my personal totems. To me, their energy is about innocence. And, also endurance. Blending in, but reminding the world of what is holy without any hoohaw or spectacle. Sparrows are humble messengers. Love you.
Of course a sparrow would sing to you because you are connected to all!
The New Yorker NEEDS this! (Tears here…)
Will you please be my literary agent? Love you
Heide, I cannot find words to express how I’m feeling right now. Bravo!
Trudie, thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Thanks for sharing that lovely story, Heide! Birds play such an important role in our world. My newest granddaughter said “owl” recently, as her first word. And both of my daughters said “bird” as their first words. How wonderful that you noticed the sparrow and that your mother was so intent on saving it. I love that it came back to sing . . .
These are the small miracles that make moments so precious!
I didn’t restrain the tears. My mom was a sparrow too. Thanks for your beautiful writing, Heide.
Lana, your are so welcome. I am honored your mom was also remembered with my tribute to sparrows.
First I smiled, and then I did cry, am crying.
Sandy, thank you for supporting me in this venture. Sometimes it’s scary to put your heart on the page.
Heide. A beautiful love story.looking forward to seeing you this weekend.
Love
Stan and Rosalie
I am so excited to see you two. At the airport now and will firm things up tomorrow!
This turned on tears. Knowing your Mom through you, (and having met her at your wedding) I know how transcendent she could be, must be. At those glorious moments, your love was nurtured in wondrous ways. Love of nature, compassion for all beings, and admiration for resourcefulness. I love the biblical verse you included. There was a book in my home library when I was small the title of which was His Eye is on the Sparrow. Same kind of message. Thank you for this graceful story. I can see your Mom, you, the sparrow so clearly–a trio of transcendent love.
Thank you, dear Susan. Your compassion rivals Mom’s.
This story about how you and your Mom dealt with a bird in distress says a lot about the kind of person that your mother was and the kind of person that you are!
Dear Bob, when I get these ideas I start writing not sure of how they will end. This one was meant to be and thank you for your kind words!
More tears here. Thank you, Heide.
It’s just that kind of post, I guess.
I love this! The deep caring, knowing WHAT to do (that’s where you get THAT!) And just all the love. So very touching! XOXOXO
Thank you, Kelly, for that kind comment.I think you, Mom and I all share in those qualities then. Up North, now, in the middle of the arctic blast. It’s all bringing out my pioneer woman spirit. Lotsa love-
Your stories are so compelling, Heide. I was engaged from the first line to the last. So loved how your Mother halted traffic on State Highway 5 to save the sparrow. And that she knew just what to do was so sweet. I now understand you and your ease of caring for and supporting others. Just wonderful, Heide, thank you.
The kind and encouraging words from a friend you admire are the best gift ever!!!
Heide,
I’m so appreciative for the feelings of nostalgia that your writings bring to heart. It’s been a very long time since I’ve felt a connection to my childhood years, with a sense of longing and appreciation for those days. You have a gift in writing of everyday experiences then drawing parallels to the deeper, lasting meaning in those experiences. Thank you for sharing. I’ve read the first three of the “Happenings On Highway 5”.
Valee, your comment means the world to me. I know we share experiences from childhood and parenthood that have shapes us in ways that can hurt. I do try to find the silver lining to the clouds. Much love, Heide Oh, and if you read the last Happening you will lust after the suitcases just like Kelly did.